Sometimes what is keeping so many mothers from accomplishing their dreams is where they live. They can't seem to move out of their cities because parents, grandparents, in-laws and others are telling them not to go. Since having children, not only do most mothers sacrifice personal goals, but they also find themselves trying to appease their kin for the sake of giving children a chance to bond with loved ones. However, what if the "others" are the cause as to why you made some decisions that are not leading you toward happiness but depression? And what if these "others" are keeping things stirring up in your current relationship? Then what? Do what you most desire!
One of the best thngs I did in my life was go where I knew spiritually, mentally and physically peace was for me. The children were still going to grow, thrive and build relationships of their own no matter their age with or without extended kin. Not one time did any of my children say, "I wish I could have aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents, etc. come see me." Instead, they were fine with telephone conversations, e-mail, and periodic visits. Children know when they are genuinely loved and appreciated and unfortunately older people who are selfish aren't much interested in the youth only what they can do for them.
So live your dreams and don't let people stop you from achieveing them. Your children are not on this planet to feed egos and perform service exclusively for your parents and grandparents and neither are you. Life is too short--enjoy it!
Nicholl McGuire is the author of When Mothers Cry, Say Goodbye to Dad, and other books.
One of the best thngs I did in my life was go where I knew spiritually, mentally and physically peace was for me. The children were still going to grow, thrive and build relationships of their own no matter their age with or without extended kin. Not one time did any of my children say, "I wish I could have aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents, etc. come see me." Instead, they were fine with telephone conversations, e-mail, and periodic visits. Children know when they are genuinely loved and appreciated and unfortunately older people who are selfish aren't much interested in the youth only what they can do for them.
So live your dreams and don't let people stop you from achieveing them. Your children are not on this planet to feed egos and perform service exclusively for your parents and grandparents and neither are you. Life is too short--enjoy it!
Nicholl McGuire is the author of When Mothers Cry, Say Goodbye to Dad, and other books.
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