Hello, and thank you so much for taking the time to stop by this blog. Today's post is thought-provoking and challenges societal norms. We often accept messages about relocating, pursuing new relationships, or taking on higher-paying jobs. But there seems to be resistance when it comes to the idea of being called to stay home and take care of our own children. Why is that?
Some people argue, "You brought those children into the world, so it's your responsibility." They question whether God truly called you to motherhood or if you simply chose it for yourself through unprotected actions. But here's the thing, when you know deep down that you haven't been called to do something, the journey becomes much harder to navigate.
Some individuals were called to stay home with their children, even without a partner. They found a way to make it work because they knew it was their responsibility. I remember a woman I spoke to who had a special needs child. She didn't have a man in her life, but she was called to bring that child into the world. And God made a way for her to stay at home and take care of her responsibility.
I, too, was called to stay home with my children. At first, I resisted the idea because I thought I would go back to work after having the baby, just like I did with my first child. But God intervened and reminded me of my regrets about not being there for my first child. So I had to wrap my head around the fact that I was called to stay home.
But staying home meant cutting down on expenses significantly. We didn't have a house, so we had to find an affordable apartment. We didn't have a car either, so we had to rely on public transportation. It was a drastic change, but I realized that living below our means reduced our responsibilities and stress levels.
In the past, families didn't rely on childcare services like we do today. Grandmothers and great-grandmothers took care of the children while parents worked. But now, we've become so focused on maintaining a certain lifestyle that we forget the true responsibility of raising our own children.
Instead of complaining about the rising costs of childcare, we should be finding ways to live within our means so that we can be there for our children. If we believe that God blessed us with our families, then we should believe that He wants us to be with our children.
I understand that not everyone is called to stay home with their children. Some people have demanding jobs or other responsibilities that prevent them from doing so. But for those who are called, it's important to prioritize our children over luxuries and conveniences.
Sometimes, the responsibility falls on grandparents or other family members. But there is an expiration date on their help. We can't keep relying on them forever. We need to take the initiative to find the necessary resources and support to fulfill our calling.
It's not easy, and there will be challenges along the way. But we must remember that we brought these children into the world, and it's our responsibility to take care of them. We can't keep blaming others or expecting them to do the work for us.
For those who are struggling with the financial burden of raising children, there are nonprofit groups, financial and career counselors who can provide assistance. We need to humble ourselves and seek help when necessary. It's not a sign of weakness but a sign of strength and love for our children.
There are also situations where parents are called to take care of their adult children. Life can throw unexpected challenges at us, and sometimes our children need us more than ever. We must be willing to step up and provide the support they need, even if it means making sacrifices.
In conclusion, the call to stay home with children is a radical message in today's society. It challenges our priorities and forces us to reevaluate our lifestyles. But if we truly believe that God blessed us with our families, then we must answer the call to be there for our children. It may require us to make difficult choices and seek help when needed, but the impact it will have on our children's lives is immeasurable.
Let us embrace the responsibility and privilege of raising our own children, knowing that we are shaping the future generation. May we find the strength, resources, and support to fulfill our calling and provide a loving and nurturing environment for our children.
Nicholl McGuire is the owner and contributor to this blog. See the podcast about this topic below, be blessed!
