Thursday

Family Friendly New Year's Eve Ideas!


Look to The Future Moms - There will Be Better Days

Whether rich or poor, with your child or no longer, as hard as it may see anything positive with your mother role, there is!  You are to demonstrate strength and be that beacon of light to others who may be going through far much than you.

Sometimes we must lift our heads up out of our own challenging situations and see other mothers and how they overcome their struggles or assist those who are hurting too.  These survivors and victims are our inspiration to want a better life.  Allow them to encourage you to want to do some things differently that might be hindering you from achieving personal and professional goals.

It is very easy to feel tempted to want to put others down, be critical, or assume one knows enough about someone to instruct, but the truth is we are all works in progress and every now and again we just need an uplift!

Be motivated in the coming year to do what you always wanted to do, live the way you see fit, and be moved to assist those who could use your help!

God bless.

Nicholl McGuire is this blog owner, author, and a motivational speaker on YouTube channel: nmenterprise7.

Tuesday

Do You Know How Children Really Feel? On Communicating with Your Kids

Claim Good Things Will Happen for You and Your Children in the Coming Years

You have prayed, cried, and even lied just to get some things done for your family and sometimes it feels like your best isn't good enough.  It seems the enemy, rather than God's angels are encamped all around you, but not so fast!  There are better days and what you might think is evil is really going to be turned around for your good!  You say, "How so?"  Keep reading.

Just when I was ready to give up being a parent and I recognized one day that all the trials I had gone through prior to writing "When Mothers Cry" was to strengthen me to become a better mother, and not to move me in a direction to give up my role as a mother (whether near or far), I was starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel when I received this revelation.  I am better able to stand strong in the face of opposition due to both knowledge and wisdom and have stayed connected over the years to my God. I see that all my pain was being converted into freeing others through their life storms since I was bold enough to talk about my truth.

I challenge you this day to claim good things for yourself and your children irregardless of what your situation looks like right now!  Even when someone or something tells you that "you can't...you won't...you will not..."  You will tell yourself, "God willing, I will overcome...My children and I will be blessed!"  But this mantra doesn't work if you don't believe it.  You will not be able to stand strong when the fight comes if you don't believe you have already won.  You are taking ownership of your happiness, peace, and truth.  No one defines those things but you!

I think as mothers we give far too much of our authority away to husbands, children, relatives, bosses, exes, in-laws, and others.  They can't control or exert power over us unless we give them the gun and tell them to press the trigger.  I don't know about you, but I am not giving any guns to friends or foes.  Rather I am exposing lies and pain for what they are.  The enemy uses those closest to you to deceive, steal, kill, destroy, and curse your life.  What your enemies called "bad...poor...not good" my God says those were tests and wilderness experiences that I brought you out of and so those same people who think I AM is far from you and is not blessing you, will soon realize just how far away I AM is from them.  Their evil speech will turn into mourning in these upcoming years--notice I didn't say year. 

As a mother, you have to cast down the strongholds that people put upon your family.  You bind curses and turn burdens over to that Almighty God you claim you serve!  Good things can happen and will, because Mother you are going to strategically align yourself with the right people, places and things so that the Holy One will be right on time! 

Moms, we don't cry for the lost and those refused to change for the good, but rejoice for the winners!

Still winning!

Nicholl McGuire is an inspirational speaker to thousands around the web.  Be inspired by her work on YouTube channel: nmenterprise7 and purchase one of her latest e-books.

Sunday

Remember Mothers Not to Do These Things at the Next Holiday Event...

7 Uncomfortable Things Some Mothers Do to Children during the Holidays

1. Tell children to hug or kiss another relative.

2. Loudly yell, threaten to punish or annoyingly correct children in front of family members.

3. Share personal stories about hygiene, school, friends, and other private things.

4. Make children clean up stuff even when they didn't make the mess.

5. Tell children to behave when they know they aren't going to be on their best behavior.

6. Change their clothes, diapers, or other apparel when other relatives are present.

7. Tell them to eat certain foods or all of their meal despite this not being a requirement at home.


Nicholl McGuire


Thursday

Stressed Mother Breathe - Now Why are You Doing So Much Again?

So many things to do and so little time to do it, but you will get through, Mother!  You have been here before and you will again, so suck it up and do what you can!  However, think about what is happening and whether or not you are going to make things happen like this next year and the next and the next.  Hmm.

I awoke to my traditional programming many years ago (about 2007) when I noticed that I was the only one concerned about the tree, tinsel, gifts, meals, visiting relatives for holidays, etc.  "What was I doing?" I asked myself.  No one was stressed but me.  The males in the family continued to do what they always did year after year (watch TV and eat) while mothers, stressed like myself at the time, put on phony smiles and complained to our moms about everything from how much something cost to what someone wasn't doing to help us. 

Those days leading up up to 2007, I was beginning to feel angered for no apparent reason especially during the holidays.  I was stressed about spending far too much money and time with folks who didn't appreciate much or did little any other time of the year.  Did they really give a d*mn anyway?

I learned early on when the tree was no more one year that no one seem to care not even my little ones.  Then the next year I noticed nothing was said when I bought less.  Years later included no cooking and no gifts, the family complaints were few.  They lived with it despite my mixed emotions.  "Wait a minute," I thought.  "I am making a big deal out of nothing!  I do for all sorts of people other times of the year too!  And isn't this the season that is really supposed to be about Christ, but then no one really knows his real birthday...and don't I have debt to pay...so now what is the purpose again?"  Then when I saw the billions of dollars corporation receive around the holidays and I had nothing--I really woke up!

Mothers take on more than their share of holiday planning, buying gifts, bridging gaps with their families, friends and in-laws, and for what?  You don't realize just how much you are doing and how it starts taking a toll on you (mentally, physically and spiritually) until you have a wake up call--the kind that leaves you scratching your head, "Now what am I doing all this for again?"

Rest in peace to all the mothers who are no longer with us this holiday season.  (It kind of makes you wonder they might have lived a little longer if they hadn't stressed so much during their youth about the holidays and during other times of the year).

Nicholl McGuire shares spiritual wisdom on this site and others.  Get your copy of When Mothers Cry today.


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Friday

Wake Up Call Mothers - Your Partner is Burned Out with Women

Do you know a man, maybe your own son, who is simply tired of mom, step-mom, mother-in-law, grandmothers, women on the job and others?  Listen up, this might be just what you need to help you better understand a man's plight Burned Out Men with Women


Thursday

When Mothers Cry Blog Owner Wishing You a Blessed Season

I just wanted to take this moment to thank the contributors of this blog and all those who have shared their entries.  I am so glad that so many parents have found it useful.  I look forward to having an even better year and wishing you and your family good health and happiness!

At this time we are welcoming any contributors who would like to be featured for their motherhood related challenges.  Also any individual or business who would like to purchase ad space, do make contact.

Feel free to reply to this post or contact me at nichollmcguire@gmail.com

Nicholl McGuire is the manager of this blog, a self-published author, inspirational speaker, and business owner originally from Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. She has been a featured guest on television and radio talk shows such as networks CBS and WPXI Channel 11.

Wednesday

Judgmental Mothers - Staring, Commenting and Saying What They Wouldn't Do

We have all been there in the store, park, library, parking lots and more, watching angry mothers handle children or ignore them.  Couples fighting about one thing or another.  Children having their share of fallouts.  Observers looking as if, "I have never seen such foolishness!  Shame, shame!" 

Well give it some time and who knows you just might be not only a witness, but a participant with your own or someone else's children (grandchildren) especially if you are married for any length of time to a partner who isn't always going to be nice and loving to you or kids. 

Spend enough time with difficult relatives and they will send your mind to places you didn't think it could go.  Then throw in a stressful job, demanding grandparents, and more debt than finances and who knows how your body might react.  There are plenty of overweight, angry, mentally disturbed, hospitalized, mean-spirited and "I can do no wrong mothers" suffering as your read this.  They more than likely threw some critical stares at other mothers while pretending as if nothing was wrong with them.  Then their turn came around and chronic stress shamed them from the way they look to the ending of marriages while critics looked at them, "Such a pity...how awful.  Well, she should have...could have...I would never..."  Watch statements like that.

So when you take a moment to read the following story about a mother, who lost her cool with her  emotional four year old child after grocery shopping, do keep in mind what she says at the end of her story.  Mothers seriously need to cut one another some slack--we ain't perfect!  Click for article.

Sunday

Involved with Too Many Activities, Stressed?

Are you doing a lot for family, friends, and others? 
Be free from the burdens of more people, more places, and more things.  Feel free to subscribe to Nicholl's YouTube channel: nmenterprise7.

Thursday

Parents Can Predict Some Things that Will Happen with Children in the Future

Consider the kind of relationship you have with your children.  What you say and do with sons and daughters will impact them for many years.  If you are ineffective (not caring for basic needs), demanding (strict), and have other issues when it comes to parenting then expect rebellious, uncaring children.  This is why some parents don't have quality connections with their offspring.  Many are lonely in senior citizen homes all around our land, because they just weren't good parents.




Wednesday

8 Signs Children are Victims of Fathers with Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Many children experience a subtle form of power and control exerted upon them by manipulative fathers with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD).  While smiling, pretending as if they are loving, kind and sweet, narcissistic fathers will do and say things to feed their egos.  They have little concern about their children's feelings and desires particularly when they conflict with their goals, revenge, and personal supply of wanting to feel good and look right before the eyes of people in their social circle and elsewhere.  Mothers who are unaware of the signs that their partners' or exes' egos are larger than life will overlook how mean-spirited these men can be with them, children and others.  By any means necessary, the narcissist will use children and anyone else for selfish gain in the form of wealth, emotional supply, travel, and anything else he wants.  Victims enable these type of men.  But what they fail to realize is there is never an ending to meeting the demands of some of these mentally disturbed men who refuse to face the fact that there is something wrong in the way they think and behave with others.

Whether you live with the narcissist father or you don't, chances are if children are visiting or living with him, they are being exposed to his foolish mindset.  A constant need for attention, the egoist is insulting, shaming, and acting evilly with children who don't tow the line while blaming you or someone else for all that goes wrong and everything that goes right, they credit themselves or select favorites even when some of their toting is unfair and inaccurate.  Further, the narcissist is behaving in ways that anger children, pitting them against one another, and doing other things that annoy them especially when it comes to sons and daughters wanting relationships with other parents and relatives.  The constant denials, manipulation and control by these narcissistic fathers will  eventually cause children to resent them.

This is why it is crucial to pay attention to the signs that a child or children are being mistreated by narcissistic fathers.  Be sure to remain active in their lives come hell or high water, because sooner or later they are going to need some help.

1.  Change of heart.  Is your child often talking about getting away from dad whereas before he or she didn't mind living or visiting with him or her?

2.  Reaching out to others.  Has your child verbalized concerns with school staff, relatives and others about the narcissistic parent?  Did the child communicate how the counselors and others started looking at him or her as having a mental problem rather than investigating the parent?

3.  Nervousness, anxiety.  Does your child feel as if he or she is walking on egg shells when speaking with the parent and worry often about the father punishing him or her for talking about the NPD parent and others?

4.  Depressed.  Is the parent often getting angry or defensive with the child behind closed doors and sometimes in public leaving the child feeling depressed, angered or emotionally withdrawn?

5.  Hateful feelings.  Does the child say things that express disdain for his or her father?

6.  Nonchalant.  Is the father putting his selfish needs before the child's needs while one's son or daughter doesn't feel like the parent cares?  Children tend to act just as uncaring with others as well.

7.  Failing grades, loss of interest in once loved activities.  Has the father acted harshly with the child about things like school conduct, sporting performances, and more?

8.  Fighting, sexual promiscuity, substance abuse and other addictions.  Has your child exhibited erratic behavior, communicated strange thoughts, or did some shocking things?  Not only do you want to interview your child, but also find out of the child has been abused by him or a partner, someone outside the home, has access to a father's alcohol or drugs, or started watching his pornographic material.  A father who spends many hours at work has no clue what a child is up to while he is away and don't believe his smokescreens that he uses to distract you from what is really  going on in his dwelling.

Narcissists are very selfish and controlling individuals.  In addition, they are needy for attention, act in ways to belittle others while esteeming themselves as the doting father, caring, and wanting what is best for children when in all actuality these things are untrue.  These men are more concerned about how children make them look.  Educators, judges, law enforcement, and even members of the father's own family don't suspect how prideful, threatening, and vengeful these men can be when they are set on attacking their exes for old and new, don't get their way in court or when a child has made them look bad before others.  Their mindset is often "someone is going to pay for this..."

If you know someone like this, get your supportive network together, plan your battle accordingly, and do not ever let a narcissist know your plans now or in the future.  Let the authorities deal with him if you suspect he is violent.  Record all contact, make necessary arrangements to meet with school officials and anyone else connected to your child, and never ignore your son or daughter's pleas for help!

Nicholl McGuire is the author of Say Goodbye to Dad and other books.
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