Personal Message from When Mothers Cry Blog Creator - On Living Your Best in Whatever Situation You Are In

Daily I have to choose to be happy.  That's right I said choose, because I am always given the option to be sad/angry/depressed if I don't focus on contentment.  Life has never been easy for me!  This is why many of my writings, books and recordings deal with problems because I have seen more than my fair share. 

I began my menstrual cycle at nine years of age and it came with all the typical women's symptoms (bloating, cramping, bad acne, mood swings, hot flashes, etc.)  As I grew older, the menstrual related headaches, backaches, stomachaches, and leg aches had only worsened.  By the time I had children, the various bodily issues had decreased, but the psychological issues elevated.  So when women talk of their personal issues, I understand completely!  It isn't enough to go through PMS, PMDD, Menopause, Man Drama, but you have children and a job as well.  However, despite our issues, we can still choose everyday to make or break whatever is in front of us.  In the best interest of myself, I knew I had to put me first in every situation.  It may sound nice to put everyone else first, but you can't be good to anyone else if you are unhappy while doing this.

Rash decisions, irresponsible partners, ignorant relatives, crazy neighbors, unruly children, and idiot bosses will drive any sane woman insane.  The mind and body can only take but so much before it starts turning on you.  The body complains, "You are supposed to be taking care of me--what are you doing?  Okay, well since you don't care anymore, neither do I!"  The weight increases and so does the pain.  The mind says, "Look what you have done!  Now we can't get anything done!  Didn't I warn you a long time ago don't add to your troubles!"   

I recall in the Bible where believers are instructed to cast their burdens on to God.  So I took him up on it as a young girl and even now I still do.  "You told me to cast my burdens on to you well I have this one...and this one...oh and what about this one?"  Don't get the Creator of the Universe involved in your affairs if you aren't ready to let go of them.  He will make life easier for you, but you have to be willing to let go and let God even if you don't agree with the outcome. 

I will be the first to admit that I know I can't do it all in my own strength.  Those that know me will tell you, "She has a relationship with God..."  Why?  Because to live in this world with so much negativity impacting you on a daily basis, you have to find your strength from somewhere!  Negative people, places and things will bring the so-called strongest woman down eventually especially if she invites much foolishness into her life from partner, relatives, friends, co-workers, church associates, and others.

In order to deal with one's issues, there are those who choose legal or illegal drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, sex, shopping, and food for comfort.  The only thing that has really worked for me over the years is my faith that is why I don't mind sharing it with others who sincerely want to know more.

I find that when I am faced with a challenge, I look for the most beneficial options/solutions/tools to deal with it.  If there are none readily available, I know that I have a Creator who will make a way even if it means delegating responsibilities while the watchful eyes of critics are all-too-ready to find fault with me.  I could care less, I have a life to live and I intend to live it!  Sometimes we waste far too much time explaining why we do what we do to people who don't care anyway especially jealous individuals (sigh). 

Years ago, when I dealt with a divorce, misbehaving children, and lack of income, I had to figure out a plan of survival.  I knew that if I didn't do something quick, family would be grieving a daughter, a mother, and a wife.  There were times that I felt as if the world was coming down on me and that there was no way out!  It seemed the louder I screamed, the more people wouldn't listen.  So what do you do?  You find a way out if you can't take it anymore!  Some would say, "Don't run, just keep fighting."  That sort of advice is no good, when you have made up your mind you are done with fighting besides are any of your advisers willing to help you fight your battle(s)?  There comes a point when you have to be quiet, keep your business to yourself, and move on.  My fight with foolish people is finished.  I bow out gracefully.  I am letting God do the avenging.

Whatever situation you are in this day, realize there are powers beyond our comprehension at work for good and for evil.  You can either be a part of the problem or the solution.  Know that as with all things, this too shall pass (read the Holy Bible for some wisdom).

Nicholl McGuire author of When Mothers Cry and other books.

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