Want to Move? Family is Stopping You from Living Dreams

Sometimes what is keeping so many mothers from accomplishing their dreams is where they live.  They can't seem to move out of their cities because parents, grandparents, in-laws and others are telling them not to go.  Since having children, not only do most mothers sacrifice personal goals, but they also find themselves trying to appease their kin for the sake of giving children a chance to bond with loved ones.  However, what if the "others" are the cause as to why you made some decisions that are not leading you toward happiness but depression?  And what if these "others" are keeping things stirring up in your current relationship?  Then what?  Do what you most desire!

One of the best thngs I did in my life was go where I knew spiritually, mentally and physically peace was for me.  The children were still going to grow, thrive and build relationships of their own no matter their age with or without extended kin.  Not one time did any of my children say, "I wish I could have aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents, etc. come see me."  Instead, they were fine with telephone conversations, e-mail, and periodic visits.  Children know when they are genuinely loved and appreciated and unfortunately older people who are selfish aren't much interested in the youth only what they can do for them.

So live your dreams and don't let people stop you from achieveing them.  Your children are not on this planet to feed egos and perform service exclusively for your parents and grandparents and neither are you.  Life is too short--enjoy it!

Nicholl McGuire is the author of When Mothers Cry, Say Goodbye to Dad, and other books. 

What Do You Have Mother Intuition For, Yet You Don't Use It?

Fighting for this cause, crying in prayer for peace, wanting all things good for your family, but ignoring your God-given mother's intuition?  The husband says, "Don't worry about it."  A child cries, "Mom, please..."  A grandmother warns, "Are you sure you want to do that?"  Deep within you know you should be doing something else about a situation, but you don't.  Think of all the mothers who lost children, because they didn't listen to inner wisdom and let others drown "the voice" out.

"I wish I never did that to my children...I really wanted to protect them, but I didn't...If I hadn't...Maybe this wouldn't have happened," these mothers who say statements like this sometimes cry for years behind closed doors.  But what they aren't telling you is there were signs, but the grief caused them to forget.  Leading up to events, there was a knowing that something wasn't right and they failed to act.  So they go to God for peace of mind and being that He is a merciful and righteous God, they are still living and doing what they can to help others--at least those who still have their minds intact.

Now back to you, you have a "gut feeling," "something said," "God," "guide," "I"--whatever you want to call it that alerts you to danger when you are in tuned to it.  So when it comes to children, think twice, three times, and more before you drop them off with someone, walk or drive somewhere, and most of all co-sign on what they want.  Maybe you won't be their favorite person, but who cares, your role is "Mother."  Protect your children.

Nicholl McGuire is the author of Tell Me Mother You're Sorry and other books.  Feel controlled by your own mother, manipulated to get your children to go along to get along, controlled by relatives...? Download a sample of the book today!  Be blessed.

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Don't Force Yourself to React to Things Just Because It Appears to be the Right Thing to Do

A mother rushes to the aid of a child who visibly appears to be okay.  There is no crying and no bumps, cuts, and bruises.  Another mother is overly emotional due to things beyond her control like a husband's layoff, a relative's divorce, and a drunken relative who refuses to get help.  Mothers everywhere are more likely to react to these situations and others, but just because responses are typical, doesn't mean we have to perform.

Maybe it seems like the right thing to do to pick up the phone and talk with judgmental, often angry kin, walk somewhere because it is routine, or help a stranger in need, but we must keep in mind that sometimes what it appears to be just another day, might not be.  Your typical response to people and things may need an adjustment for a day or a lifetime it all depends on the who or what in different situations.  So if I am use to going down the street and having a beverage with a girlfriend, but I just feel different about it right now, chances are it is a good idea I stay home today.  You never know what might be going on or maybe nothing is happening with the girlfriend, but with me.  We have to be sensitive to signs that alter or block what we are use to doing or saying.   

So many lives have been lost because some moms just didn't think twice before they walked out the door, got in their cars and drove off somewhere.  Some could have saved quality friendships had they not started up an unfavorable conversation filled with criticism.  Others could have thought twice about dropping emotional children off with people who they knew full well aren't very nice and kind, but they just didn't think! 

A gut feeling, quiet voice, or "something said" serves a purpose to alert us to trouble especially when it comes to a routine.  Things don't always appear as they seem, but we convince ourselves otherwise because we don't want to be inconvenienced, might be lazy, procrastinate, bitter about some things, still angry with someone, etc.

As much as you might want to force yourself to do something that doesn't seem to be right in your spirit or be with someone you really don't have a good vibe about (at least for today--he or she could okay on most days), resist the urge.  Today just might not be the day for small talk, going somewhere, staying late, or dropping children off.  Pause and pray.

Nicholl McGuire shares spiritual insight and other unusual thoughts on YouTube channel: nmenterprise7.