The Temptation to Want to Feel Good Despite What God Tells You

Your Partner Thinks He is Your Daddy

Just when you thought you couldn't take much more, your partner acts controlling like your father.  He tells you where to go, what to do, what to buy, etc.  You look at this man like he is a fool.  "You got to be kidding, right?  Just because I call you Daddy sometimes didn't mean that you could start acting like him..."  Calling one's husband or boyfriend "Dad" or "Daddy" is a mistake of many fatherless women.  You don't ever call your husband/boyfriend a title that isn't an accurate portrayal of him especially if you don't want to be controlled by him.  One gives her mate unspeakable power and control like that of a parent.  He subconsciously thinks he can mold and shape his wife like a child and treat her like the children--even teens will eventually rebel against this sort of thing with their own parents.

So here this man stands before you (or maybe someone you know) breathing like he is about to expel fire from his nose with eyes almost demonic like.  He shouts you down, threatens, or even calls you a name or two.  The children either witness the commotion or in the next room they are oblivious to what is happening.  Something on the inside arises in you and every negative emotion that you had for your own father comes flowing like a river.

In the book by Nicholl McGuire, author of When Mothers Cry, Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate and other books, she has created a thought-provoking guide to getting free from the emotional ties that bind daughters and sons to controlling fathers, emotionally unavailable Dads, and others. 

When one repeatedly argues with his or her mate in ways that trigger negative childhood memories, something happens during various stages of life that reminds us, "You have issues."  In Nicholl's work, the challenges are how we deal or don't deal with difficult fathers and other toxic men in our lives and how to break free emotionally, spiritually and more.  So when you are ready to sever toxic ties, Nicholl's book, Say Goodbye to Dad is here to help.

Tell Me Mother You're Sorry by Nicholl McGuire Excerpt Chapter 9

Mothers and Stepmothers - Competition is None

What is the use talking badly about the mother of children regardless of her title?  Why bother to tell everyone how much money you spend, what you bought for the kids, and everything else to make your Facebook page look important?  Yet some mothers and stepmothers are guilty of this!  Outsiders looking in, especially the childfree, see that mother and stepmother are doing the best they can, but they can also see when one or both are acting evilly.

Move the egos out the way competitive women!  Allow those mothers (grandmothers, step-mothers, play mothers, god mothers, mother-in-laws, etc.) in your life some breathing room.  The problem with school breaks, major and minor holidays as well as other child related activities is that competitive, insecure women don't know when to stand down primarily because the men in their lives aren't speaking up.  So the mother from the original family gets an upper hand or is forgot about, treated poorly, etc. (depending on the situation) while the stepmother turns controlling or is frequently disrespected, because the heads of households or supposedly the heads (fathers) are not handling their business right from the start!

A child should never feel like he or she can't talk to their biological mother and a stepmother shouldn't be made to feel like she is being used.  But all too often this happens, because men, seeking substitutes for children, sell the new women in their lives a bag of false gold.  Before long, the biological mother is wondering, "What the h*ll is going on?"  Those women who are proactive in the lives of their children will not always play nicely or fairly.  There will be moments where these moms will stand on their soapboxes and express their feelings and so will other mother figures.  "Playing nicely ladies..." just won't cut it coming from the well-wishers.

Far too often, women let lazy, controlling, or downright ignorant men get away with much and then when the going gets tough, the guilty parties remove themselves from all circles of confusion that could have been prevented.  Instead of Dad picking up and dropping off children, he is allowing the stepmother, who is already insecure, to show up at the doorstep of his former partner.  Rather than Dad reaching an understanding with the mothers in his life when it comes to children, he pits them against one another by talking negatively about each.

Wake up women and don't let these devious men come between you, your children and grandchildren!

Nicholl McGuire is the author of When Mothers Cry, Tell Me Mother You're Sorry and Say Goodbye to Dad.

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