Move the egos out the way competitive women! Allow those mothers (grandmothers, step-mothers, play mothers, god mothers, mother-in-laws, etc.) in your life some breathing room. The problem with school breaks, major and minor holidays as well as other child related activities is that competitive, insecure women don't know when to stand down primarily because the men in their lives aren't speaking up. So the mother from the original family gets an upper hand or is forgot about, treated poorly, etc. (depending on the situation) while the stepmother turns controlling or is frequently disrespected, because the heads of households or supposedly the heads (fathers) are not handling their business right from the start!
A child should never feel like he or she can't talk to their biological mother and a stepmother shouldn't be made to feel like she is being used. But all too often this happens, because men, seeking substitutes for children, sell the new women in their lives a bag of false gold. Before long, the biological mother is wondering, "What the h*ll is going on?" Those women who are proactive in the lives of their children will not always play nicely or fairly. There will be moments where these moms will stand on their soapboxes and express their feelings and so will other mother figures. "Playing nicely ladies..." just won't cut it coming from the well-wishers.
Far too often, women let lazy, controlling, or downright ignorant men get away with much and then when the going gets tough, the guilty parties remove themselves from all circles of confusion that could have been prevented. Instead of Dad picking up and dropping off children, he is allowing the stepmother, who is already insecure, to show up at the doorstep of his former partner. Rather than Dad reaching an understanding with the mothers in his life when it comes to children, he pits them against one another by talking negatively about each.
Wake up women and don't let these devious men come between you, your children and grandchildren!
Nicholl McGuire is the author of When Mothers Cry, Tell Me Mother You're Sorry and Say Goodbye to Dad.