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Friday
Spring Break with Children, School Break Challenges
Well you knew it was coming, days off from school and you hate it! Look, your secret is safe with me. For years, I wasn't too happy about spring break either especially when I had two in diapers, one was being breast fed and the other was always into something. The other two (yes four at home) would sometimes physically and verbally fight. This is one of many reasons I lean on God to date as a result of motherhood issues. See my work on YouTube channel nmenterprise7. So I know what it is like to resent those days off from school particularly when you have little money and no job outside the home.
Spring break with children doesn't have to be too bad when mom makes up in her mind she will not be defeated by crying children, whining tweens and smart-mouthed teens. You will be strong! You will find your peace even while you struggle with school break challenges. Here is a list of things you can do to get through this mentally and physically draining period.
1. Get up, put your clothes on, and start your day with a sense of purpose. When you do, you will be ready to do some things with the children when they plead, "Can we go out? Are we going somewhere today?"
2. Partner with other mothers or ask a supportive relative to tag along sometimes when you go out. It makes it so easy when you have someone who can relate and is calm and patient with you and your kids. Avoid those relatives who will only make you angry and wish that you would have never asked them to help.
3. List activities you want them to participate in that will do the following: give you a break, make life easier around the home (like doing chores for starters--more on this later), and won't wear you out! Those time-consuming craft projects that require adult supervision will burn you out. Having the children participate in something where you need to be present, a waste of time and money when you have a lot to do.
4. Chores -- put children to work. Create another list of everything those hands can do around your home. From dusting to putting dishes away, everyone should have a task. Did you see what I had my little ones doing at three and four on YouTube. If not, see here and here. This is another video I did as well, When the Kids are Busy Everyone is Happy.
5. Stretch and exercise. They can do it and so can you. Breaks tend to make everyone eat more because the food is readily available and school related events have slowed down. Afternoons and evenings. Who says you only need to go out once a day? Get those children going a couple of times a day--wear them out! If you can take them to a gym where there is a daycare and you can afford it, do it.
6. Visit people willing to watch your children or take them along to family events. You will usually reap the benefits later after they get use to seeing you. Many grandparents don't like the sudden phone call asking for something or dropping by and leaving children yet there is little conversation.
7. Check into local recreation and park departments in your town/city to see what activities are taking place. Go to church and ask members to pray for you and family. Make time for God, because you will need Him!
8. Use those rooms in your home and separate children. Anyone who leaves an area will have to deal with you!
9. Take advantage of gaming devices, video, music, computers, and other things, but don't let them babysit the children for hours and hours. Set a timer so that you won't forget about them--lol!
10. Baths, swings, jumpers, music, vacuum cleaner noises, full belly, change of scenery/fresh air, card rides,and frequently changed diapers often helps those fussy babies. Otherwise, you can stay in a room and pace the floor while crying right along with baby. If the situation is not under control and other symptoms seem to be getting the best of baby, you will need to make that dreaded doctor's appointment. See WebMD for health concerns.
As always, thanks for stopping by.
Nicholl McGuire shares spiritual insight on YouTube channel: nmenterprise7.
Spring break with children doesn't have to be too bad when mom makes up in her mind she will not be defeated by crying children, whining tweens and smart-mouthed teens. You will be strong! You will find your peace even while you struggle with school break challenges. Here is a list of things you can do to get through this mentally and physically draining period.
1. Get up, put your clothes on, and start your day with a sense of purpose. When you do, you will be ready to do some things with the children when they plead, "Can we go out? Are we going somewhere today?"
2. Partner with other mothers or ask a supportive relative to tag along sometimes when you go out. It makes it so easy when you have someone who can relate and is calm and patient with you and your kids. Avoid those relatives who will only make you angry and wish that you would have never asked them to help.
3. List activities you want them to participate in that will do the following: give you a break, make life easier around the home (like doing chores for starters--more on this later), and won't wear you out! Those time-consuming craft projects that require adult supervision will burn you out. Having the children participate in something where you need to be present, a waste of time and money when you have a lot to do.
4. Chores -- put children to work. Create another list of everything those hands can do around your home. From dusting to putting dishes away, everyone should have a task. Did you see what I had my little ones doing at three and four on YouTube. If not, see here and here. This is another video I did as well, When the Kids are Busy Everyone is Happy.
5. Stretch and exercise. They can do it and so can you. Breaks tend to make everyone eat more because the food is readily available and school related events have slowed down. Afternoons and evenings. Who says you only need to go out once a day? Get those children going a couple of times a day--wear them out! If you can take them to a gym where there is a daycare and you can afford it, do it.
6. Visit people willing to watch your children or take them along to family events. You will usually reap the benefits later after they get use to seeing you. Many grandparents don't like the sudden phone call asking for something or dropping by and leaving children yet there is little conversation.
7. Check into local recreation and park departments in your town/city to see what activities are taking place. Go to church and ask members to pray for you and family. Make time for God, because you will need Him!
8. Use those rooms in your home and separate children. Anyone who leaves an area will have to deal with you!
9. Take advantage of gaming devices, video, music, computers, and other things, but don't let them babysit the children for hours and hours. Set a timer so that you won't forget about them--lol!
10. Baths, swings, jumpers, music, vacuum cleaner noises, full belly, change of scenery/fresh air, card rides,and frequently changed diapers often helps those fussy babies. Otherwise, you can stay in a room and pace the floor while crying right along with baby. If the situation is not under control and other symptoms seem to be getting the best of baby, you will need to make that dreaded doctor's appointment. See WebMD for health concerns.
As always, thanks for stopping by.
Nicholl McGuire shares spiritual insight on YouTube channel: nmenterprise7.
Wednesday
Why Bother Reaching Out to Some Relatives and Friends?
They can't help you, don't really like you, and seem to tolerate you because your mate puts up with you, these people you call "family, in-law, son, daughter, best buddy...," why do you continue to bother with them when you know the relationship has clearly changed?
I thought of this when I saw a family of Mexicans coming out of their home and I said to myself, "Don't they get tired of one another, I mean having so many people living in a small place and everyone knowing so much about you..." From a distance, it appeared relatives, in-laws, and friends were cool, but when I looked closely at their faces, I saw stress.
Now if we were all living together for a long period of time, we would grow angry with one another and might even threaten not to see one another again. Yet, most of us don't live in an atmosphere with many people, but our cell phones are crowded with phone numbers. When we have slow moments in our lives, we call the good, bad, and ugly in our lives, don't we?
Why do we bother with some folks? Because they are mothers like us, bought our kids something years ago, said something nice about us, hoped that things had changed with them, God told us...why? These lukewarm individuals rarely acknowledge us, partners and our children, and will seldom, if ever, send us anything. Some dispense compliments few and far in between. They don't sound happy to hear from us. And thinking back, they really didn't care for us when we first met them, and that hasn't changed for some.
The holidays come along and now everyone wants you around and this one is celebrating a birthday and that one is expecting you show up to this child's game, but what is happening in the meantime? Nothing. No phone calls and other forms of communication unless you initiate it. Sometimes they are the ones who could have, should have, and would have done for you and children, but decided that because they don't like how someone behaved with them or what they heard about you, they will not make much contact, if at all, with you. People in relationships experience this much especially with in-laws. If the husband or wife doesn't do well about connecting with his or her side of the family, the rest of his or her family members are forgotten.
Not only do relationships with partners take work, so do maintaining a connection with relatives and friends and because of this, we must look beyond that old circle of relatives and friends. The folks you grew up with served their purpose and some of those friendships have since expired. Some relatives may or may not be there for you depending on their mood for the day, whether they are generous, or really like you. Whatever the issue, I ask again, why bother reaching out to some relatives and friends?
Nicholl McGuire shares spiritual insight on YouTube channel: nmenterprise7
I thought of this when I saw a family of Mexicans coming out of their home and I said to myself, "Don't they get tired of one another, I mean having so many people living in a small place and everyone knowing so much about you..." From a distance, it appeared relatives, in-laws, and friends were cool, but when I looked closely at their faces, I saw stress.
Now if we were all living together for a long period of time, we would grow angry with one another and might even threaten not to see one another again. Yet, most of us don't live in an atmosphere with many people, but our cell phones are crowded with phone numbers. When we have slow moments in our lives, we call the good, bad, and ugly in our lives, don't we?
Why do we bother with some folks? Because they are mothers like us, bought our kids something years ago, said something nice about us, hoped that things had changed with them, God told us...why? These lukewarm individuals rarely acknowledge us, partners and our children, and will seldom, if ever, send us anything. Some dispense compliments few and far in between. They don't sound happy to hear from us. And thinking back, they really didn't care for us when we first met them, and that hasn't changed for some.
The holidays come along and now everyone wants you around and this one is celebrating a birthday and that one is expecting you show up to this child's game, but what is happening in the meantime? Nothing. No phone calls and other forms of communication unless you initiate it. Sometimes they are the ones who could have, should have, and would have done for you and children, but decided that because they don't like how someone behaved with them or what they heard about you, they will not make much contact, if at all, with you. People in relationships experience this much especially with in-laws. If the husband or wife doesn't do well about connecting with his or her side of the family, the rest of his or her family members are forgotten.
Not only do relationships with partners take work, so do maintaining a connection with relatives and friends and because of this, we must look beyond that old circle of relatives and friends. The folks you grew up with served their purpose and some of those friendships have since expired. Some relatives may or may not be there for you depending on their mood for the day, whether they are generous, or really like you. Whatever the issue, I ask again, why bother reaching out to some relatives and friends?
Nicholl McGuire shares spiritual insight on YouTube channel: nmenterprise7
Tuesday
21 Things and Counting When it Comes to Schools Making Money Off the Parents
A public school that two of my sons attend is indeed a money-maker! There isn't a week that doesn't go by where we parents don't receive a list of upcoming activities, needed supplies and more that require our money. Here are 21 things the school did to get money from us, and I'm sure someone will get the bright idea to use one or many of these ideas. But I warn you before you bring up these ideas to money-grubbing leadership, greed will get some groups and individuals in trouble sooner or later.
We live in a time where everyone is asking for money to pay for this and that, and for some people, including myself, it can be quite taxing especially when some smell generosity a mile away! I'm not surprised when some parents and others go off when yet someone else is asking for a donation of money and time! Enough already! Greedy people and those with big ideas hoping to keep their own money to self, deserve just what they get, no support! So check out the list of everything that has cost many parents much this year.
1. Scholastic book fairs twice a year and advertising in between to visit website to buy books.
2. Friday weekly treats.
3. School store.
4. Fee to join PTA including frequent requests to volunteer for too many events to count.
5. Restaurant events--partial proceeds go to the school when you spend money you shouldn't eating out.
6. Afterschool programs that usually cost $80 plus dollars per child over a 10 week period. Add gas, snacks, eating out at restaurants, uniforms, and other things needed to join the soccer team, acting, chess, science program, and other activities.
7. Art made by the students. A long list of things for you to buy so that your child's artwork can appear on the items. Price range from $6 to $50 plus per item. (As if the paper crafts, drawings, cardboard box projects, and other stuff isn't already enough stuff!)
8. T-shirts for everything your child's school participates in when competing with other schools.
9. Holiday fund-raisers (Easter, Christmas, Valentine grams, cards, candy, novelty items, etc.) Most companies don't support these fund-raisers because many people at work have kids doing the same thing. The issues of having to support your own child, your co-workers, the boss' kid, etc. will take you to the poor house faster than you can say, "I don't have any money..."
10. Buy needed school supplies at the start of the year. (Seriously, why are we doing this, don't public schools get money from somewhere other than us?" Just think when you have more than one child, this adds up. Then the teacher will send a note back around again about mid-year indicating what she has run out of in the classroom.
11. Penny collections to pay for school property. (I can't even keep pennies in the house anymore!)
12. Field trips. (Need I say more?)
13. Holiday classroom parties. "Could you please send XYZ items, and also this, and we will need that...could you donate your time too? We really want to have a fabulous party for the children..." Who's idea was it? You will pay for your own party!
14. Supplies needed for recitals and plays.
15. School projects
16. Annual school photos (twice a year).
17. Yearbooks
18. Box top collections. (Tempted to pay slightly more for an item to help your kid's school, eh?)
19. School lunches (not everyone income qualifies to get free lunches).
20. Library fees. (I was on my kids like a drill sergeant this year to return books.)
21. Uniforms bought through the school's supplier. (No thanks, Walmart here I come.)
School leadership and staff at many schools are also beggars, score keepers, and members of a club. I find it sad that the profession just doesn't have the reputation it once had in many circles. I resent being asked over and over again for contributions and if you don't someone is smiling in your face asking you about doing this and doing that. Many of us moms made financial sacrifices to be available to our children, partners and other kin. Then along comes yet another program, request for service or money that isn't doing anything more than entertaining children that need to learn as much as they can. (I can take them on a couple field trips myself.) Some staff use our hard-earned money for ideas that don't really pan out in the way these originators/innovators had hoped anyway.
I pick and choose with the giving, but to be quite honest I am turned off with literally hundreds of fliers that have come home asking, "Could you help..."!
Nicholl McGuire
We live in a time where everyone is asking for money to pay for this and that, and for some people, including myself, it can be quite taxing especially when some smell generosity a mile away! I'm not surprised when some parents and others go off when yet someone else is asking for a donation of money and time! Enough already! Greedy people and those with big ideas hoping to keep their own money to self, deserve just what they get, no support! So check out the list of everything that has cost many parents much this year.
1. Scholastic book fairs twice a year and advertising in between to visit website to buy books.
2. Friday weekly treats.
3. School store.
4. Fee to join PTA including frequent requests to volunteer for too many events to count.
5. Restaurant events--partial proceeds go to the school when you spend money you shouldn't eating out.
6. Afterschool programs that usually cost $80 plus dollars per child over a 10 week period. Add gas, snacks, eating out at restaurants, uniforms, and other things needed to join the soccer team, acting, chess, science program, and other activities.
7. Art made by the students. A long list of things for you to buy so that your child's artwork can appear on the items. Price range from $6 to $50 plus per item. (As if the paper crafts, drawings, cardboard box projects, and other stuff isn't already enough stuff!)
8. T-shirts for everything your child's school participates in when competing with other schools.
9. Holiday fund-raisers (Easter, Christmas, Valentine grams, cards, candy, novelty items, etc.) Most companies don't support these fund-raisers because many people at work have kids doing the same thing. The issues of having to support your own child, your co-workers, the boss' kid, etc. will take you to the poor house faster than you can say, "I don't have any money..."
10. Buy needed school supplies at the start of the year. (Seriously, why are we doing this, don't public schools get money from somewhere other than us?" Just think when you have more than one child, this adds up. Then the teacher will send a note back around again about mid-year indicating what she has run out of in the classroom.
11. Penny collections to pay for school property. (I can't even keep pennies in the house anymore!)
12. Field trips. (Need I say more?)
13. Holiday classroom parties. "Could you please send XYZ items, and also this, and we will need that...could you donate your time too? We really want to have a fabulous party for the children..." Who's idea was it? You will pay for your own party!
14. Supplies needed for recitals and plays.
15. School projects
16. Annual school photos (twice a year).
17. Yearbooks
18. Box top collections. (Tempted to pay slightly more for an item to help your kid's school, eh?)
19. School lunches (not everyone income qualifies to get free lunches).
20. Library fees. (I was on my kids like a drill sergeant this year to return books.)
21. Uniforms bought through the school's supplier. (No thanks, Walmart here I come.)
School leadership and staff at many schools are also beggars, score keepers, and members of a club. I find it sad that the profession just doesn't have the reputation it once had in many circles. I resent being asked over and over again for contributions and if you don't someone is smiling in your face asking you about doing this and doing that. Many of us moms made financial sacrifices to be available to our children, partners and other kin. Then along comes yet another program, request for service or money that isn't doing anything more than entertaining children that need to learn as much as they can. (I can take them on a couple field trips myself.) Some staff use our hard-earned money for ideas that don't really pan out in the way these originators/innovators had hoped anyway.
I pick and choose with the giving, but to be quite honest I am turned off with literally hundreds of fliers that have come home asking, "Could you help..."!
Nicholl McGuire
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