Spiritual Abuse, Emotional Abuse and Divorce - Manipulative Spouses

No Crying on Valentine's Day Mama

Whether young or old, mothers need not cry on Valentine's Day.  Some men just aren't going to do what's right no matter what you do for them.  Consider this a wake up call to those of you who feel undervalued, disrespected and ignored.  If you have communicated your concerns to your men and celebrate the holiday, yet partners don't acknowledge this, then what more do you ladies have to do, stand on your heads?

This is why one should not put much faith in man-made holidays like Valentine's Day or any other event.  Wives are to be appreciated any time of the year.  Don't allow the retail pressure to get to you or couples hand-holding and kissing to make you feel sad.  Also, don't feel obligated to do something or say something to cause drama in your household.  Relax.  Some men simply forget about holiday stuff or don't have the money to celebrate, but the good guys who know their partners love the holiday will make up for their absentmindedness later.  The good guys always come out winning, the bad ones not so much.

Reward yourself, mama!  Give yourself the love, peace, and happiness you so desperately want.  Put a flower on display in your household, cook your favorite meal, put on some music, and bask in the glow of loving and appreciating one's self.  If you are no good to you, how can you be to others?

Nicholl McGuire shares spiritual insight at YouTube channel: nmenterprise7.

FunnyThings About Relationships and Children

Sometimes we forget about those funny, yet sad, things that change us since becoming mothers.

• So you're not bothered too much when a partner or children comes into the bathroom to discuss their woes, huh?  You might even encourage them to share issues while saying, "Excuse the smell..."  I won't tell.

• You don't think much about your nakedness when you scold your children for the umpteenth time about something on the way to the shower or argue with your partner about something that must get done now rather than later.  I mean, do you really stop mid-sentence to politely say, "Oh forgive me, I must go grab my robe? Please forgive the jiggling from my milk jugs while I talk... And another thing!"

• No calls will be taken from in-laws or exes while your cooking, eating, cleaning, helping children, or anything else--hey your secret is safe with me.  We'll just pretend we missed the call.  "They can wait until next week...how about next year for all I care! I have enough on my plate." Besides, the in-laws don't want the wife unless they haven't reached their dear son/brother/nephew/cousin anyway.  

• You think about that man in the next room watching TV and you say to yourself, "When was the last time we had sex?  No really, when was it?"

• Those needy kids (sigh).  "Seriously, I don't want to hear what your teacher said you need...Is she here?  Does she have the money to buy it?  I have enough trouble remembering what your father said." says mom who is busy once again swiping her debit card.

• "Is that gray hair?  Wait a minute is that a line on my face?  Where the hell did these moles come from?  Who am I?" you hate the mirror yet?

• "Honey, look at me?  Hey, honey do you see me?  Kids move out the way, honey, remember me?" Can you even recall the last time he looked you in your eyes?

Motherhood isn't all bad.

Nicholl McGuire shares insightful things to think about life at YouTube Channel: nmenterprise7

The Best Thing about Motherhood, The Worse

No matter what you might do to be content with being a parent, it will never be good enough.  You will have those moments that no words you might say to your children when it comes to disciplining, teaching, and encouraging them will be enough.  No amount of money and time spent with them will be enough.

Further, there are those times that you just don't explain things in the way you really, really want to communicate them--especially when you hear what you supposedly said back out of little lips.  The children missed the lesson, that's not what you meant, and how could they have heard that when you said XYZ?

The best thing about motherhood is knowing that somehow you were chosen out of all the women in the world that wanted to be moms and the worse is being held accountable for another human being's life--to much is given much is required.

You, a flawed human being who would have never thought in a thousand years that you were going to be a mom, much less the kind of mom you are today, became one anyway--chosen by a mighty Creator!  Be the circumstances right or wrong how your child or children arrived, their here and you still have some degree of sanity through it all!  God bless you!

What others meant for evil, what others thought was wrong, and what people said they could never do, you did--you brought life into the world and for that you are commended!  No holiday is necessary and no honor is required, because you know who you are and your purpose, be there for your children whether near or far through briers and thorns--be available.

So what comes next after another milestone is reached, a grade level is passed, a birthday is celebrated, a disappointment shows up, and a child is in trouble once again, another life lesson.  One more chance to do things like:  make up for past wrongs, teach a son or daughter a valuable lesson, give him or her a needed gift, and sit back and appreciate life with your child or children.

For we never know the day or hour when a goodbye might be our last one whether we say it to them or they say it to us.

Nicholl McGuire 

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