After spending years of whining, diapers, and picky eating, nowadays we are dealing with puberty with two of the four sons and young adulthood with the other two guys. They have their up and down days. During the school year, it seemed like we had more fights between siblings than any other issues. With sons it can be physical first, then talk later. Watching sporting events like wrestling and football for hours don't make testosterone filled days any better!
Recent battles have included: a protest regarding the reduction in screen time on all devices, spats with siblings usually about someone calling a name out of anger, and a need for more space. One son accomplished his goal in February and moved out. I didn't make things comfortable for him leading up to his departure, because I recognized the adult in him was bravely coming out to exercise his authority. When the older children felt like they could handle what life throws at them, I took them on a trial run. The eldest passed after I gave him numerous responsibilities.
As for the others, the second eldest is on his way to independent living. He is excited about the possibility of having his own place, but not without a second job. The third and fourth son have awhile to go so I am managing the situations as they arise. One issue that will soon be resolved is giving them their own rooms. Too much is given, much is required. Screen time is still limited during the week and bed time is enforced through the week. I consider this a win for Mom and Dad!
There is no crying over children during this season of my life, but there are times of yelling like a drill sergeant. It won't be long now before they are leaders/husbands/fathers. I hope their time with us serves them well.
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| Getting them out and about cuts down on the screen time. |
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| I wish sporting events weren't so long...almost bed time. |
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