When Mothers Cry About Leaving Their Partner

It's happening everywhere! Mothers are not interested in playing mom or wife. They want out! There is simply too much pressure to be everything to everybody! But it doesn't have to end with mom running out the door carrying a box or two in hand with car keys and plans to drive away and never look back! Something can be done! Something must be done!

If it ain't broke don't fix it.

In relationships we tend to look for things wrong when there isn't really anything of major importance wrong. But watching the soap operas, listening to your friend's drama, playing some sad oldies, and thinking way too deeply about something you have read, will surely make you think things that just aren't true. When you are feeling insecure, creating dramas that are imagined, and scaring your partner away with all your questions, its time to change your habits and hobbies -- how about stop feeding into everyone else's drama?

What you don't know won't hurt you.

Is it really necessary to know everything that is going on with your partner at work, with his relatives and friends, and wherever else his feet tread? Let's just say he does have a history of cheating. If you suspect he is still up to no good, why worry yourself any longer? Do what you must to break free. But if he isn't, then you need help sister! There are things that men will do that will make their wife or girlfriend frown, but if you don't want to be upset on a daily basis, stop snooping, stop asking and just be sure you aren't doing anything to make him distrust you!

If at first you don't succeed, try, try again!

So you argued with your partner and some other things too embarrassing to breathe to anyone you know occurred. Can you honestly say that it is time to call it quits? People make mistakes all the time. People say things they don't mean. These things are normal, but what isn't is being beaten, stabbed, punished verbally or physically over and over again -- these things are usually unforgivable for most normal people. However, those little things, the ones that you know you need to work on trying to do better, if at first you don't succeed, try, try again!

When you and your partner both know its simply not feasible to break up emotionally and/or financially, and when you both know that the timing doesn't look or feel right, stick it out! Be as polite as you can, make love as much as you can, and try real hard to smile when you rather frown. Don't give up over petty things. Do talk about what makes you angry and if you need a third party, then find someone for yourself that may help you before you suggest going to counseling together!

May God bless...

Nicholl McGuire is the creator of this blog and author of When Mothers Cry, Amazon.com You can follow her tweets at @nichollmcguire.

When Mothers Cry for their Children's Innocense

I was upset when I first realized that my children were coming home making weird, annoying sounds from daycare grating on my nerves and it seemed I had to of-ten tell them to stop. Then later I became irate to learn from my sons that some nasty boys and girls had decided to share with the daycare class a reenactment of what goes on behind their parents closed doors. I assumed from the details either my son’s friends saw something through a cracked bedroom door, someone’s open blinds, or accidentally saw a movie they shouldn’t have. I was enraged when I found out that two of my children as a result of looking at a couple of their classmates “show and tell” display were open to some games of discovery with little girls who didn’t know any better or was far too willing to try something new. Luckily, my children have myself and other family members who talk as well as discipline them for any misconduct.

Parents can usually tell if their children are get-ting out of line by what they say before they do anything. Yet, in the back of my mind, I wondered if my sons were ever tempted again would they remember what their father and I told them. Would they remember the punishment that they had received before giving into any future tempting situation?

This issue of childhood innocence is becoming less and less with each passing decade. I personally believe childhood innocence ends the day you let someone other than yourself watch your children. No one is as careful as a good mother. She will notice when something isn’t right with her children. The moment she suspects something isn’t right she will start investigating any and everyone. From the teacher to the superintendent, everyone is suspect including the father. She will ask questions, conduct searches, interviews, and set traps. She will leave no stone unturned. She demands names, “Who told you that? Who is Jimmy? Where does Cindy live?” A mother has zero tolerance for lies and cover-ups. She will risk her freedom, if it means that a good spanking will set the record straight. Some mothers do not want to face the reality that their children’s child-hood innocence was lost days, months, even years ago! They want everyone to believe their children had nothing to do with the writing on the wall, the theft, the fight, the rape, or even the murder. “My son would never…my daughter couldn’t…” Someone did it so it might as well have been your child, my child or someone else’s child. When the man or woman in uniform arrives at a mother’s doorstep, a mother can no longer shield her eyes from the trouble standing before her. It is a devastating truth for her when she realizes her baby did it and no one else is to blame!

As for the other meaning regarding this chapter’s title, it describes a child’s innocence even when he or she is falsely accused. The young man, woman or child has done nothing wrong, yet society still punishes a mother’s son or daughter despite the facts. There is the mother who cries for her child who is suspended from school, even though he was not at the scene of the crime. In another part of town, there is the mother who cries for her daughter who is arrested for shoplifting even though she has nothing on her. These are children who may or may not have been at the wrong place at the wrong time, and no one seems to care but mother!

While society screams, “Your child had to be guilty of something!” All she can do is say, “It wasn’t my child!” There are mother’s who cry tears every time they have to visit their innocent child in jail. Her heart screams, “My child doesn’t belong here!” She wants justice to be done for her child, just as it was done for the many other children of mothers seen on television and read about in print. Yet, it doesn’t happen for her child and she can’t help but grieve daily. “Why God? Why my child?”

I saw the grief on a relative’s face when her child was wrongly accused of a crime he didn’t commit. I saw the pain on my ex-boyfriend’s mother’s face when he had been falsely accused. How could these women fight against judges that were up for re-election, witnesses with foggy memories, and a legal aid organization that promised to help, but didn’t deliver? Mothers cry for different reasons, but by far the loudest cry is coming from the mother whose child is innocent. All she wanted to do was raise her child to be a productive member of society, but someone or something took that away. Many mothers age rapidly with this kind of stress. It is absolutely mandatory they have a faith, support system and counseling when they are faced with these kinds of issues. Without all three, some part of the mother’s being will die mentally, physically and/or spiritually.

This is an excerpt taken from the book When Mothers Cry by Nicholl McGuire, from Chapter 19 entitled, "When Mothers Cry for their Children's Innocense."

The Top 5 Mother Jobs of the Decade

Just because a woman is a stay-at-home mom does not mean she is not educated, and there are many mother jobs available for those that wish to work from home. These jobs are advantageous in that:

• They help to supplement the family income
• They reduce boredom or feelings of being "under-employed"
• They are flexible and allow moms to stay at home

1. Work at Home Online Jobs

The best jobs for mothers are online jobs. These are good for mothers because:
1. She has more time for the family
2. She can make her own schedule
3. There is minimal stress in the work
4. There are cost benefits because there is no commuting to work, no daycare costs and no dress code

Most work at home mother jobs are online and they include freelance writing (blogs, e-books, articles etc.), affiliate marketing, and consulting. Finding a job or starting a business online is usually the best direction to go if you have low or no funds for start-up costs.

2. Art and Crafts

Talented women can make art or crafts and sell the products to retail outlets. The art or crafts can also be sold in online markets such as eBay and in online stores. Products can include painting, sculpting, bead making, pottery, and dress making.

3. Catering

Catering is a good way to make money because the hours are flexible and there is not much competition in some locations. This work is perfect for women that love to cook and bake. Most catering jobs are for small events or office functions, but can be as large as weddings or formal charity dinners.

4. Day Care Services

Starting a day care service is a good way to make money if your day is spent taking care of children anyway. Working mothers just drop their kids off and you take care of your children and the other children on your premises. Licensing is required in most states, but is not difficult to prepare for.

5. Real Estate

One of the most popular of the various mother jobs is becoming a real estate agent. Real estate offers a flexible schedule and mothers can even bring their babies to the properties for viewings if she feels her clients approve. All that is required is a real estate license and the mother can establish her own real estate agency with a work load she can handle.

Sue is the author of The Work From Home Newsletter.
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13 Reasons Stay Home Parents Say No to Volunteering and Make Money in the Recession!

I must say I couldn't wait to post this lovely woman's article, please pay close attention stay-at-home moms who are stressing yourselves out for FREE! WTF!?

Anytime you quit your job to stay at home it seems the whole world thinks you have nothing but free time on your hands. Stay home parents are the first asked to do things. You're the first person asked to take care of something at school, church, family functions and darn near everything. It's as if your walking around holding a will work for free sign. You may have fallen into this trap or maybe you've just began this journey. I'm here to teach you how to say NO!

1) Eliminate the volunteer positions you don't really want to do.
2) When approached with request say No, and don't give a reason.
3) You're never expected to give a reason why, just a yes or no.
4) People build a mental list of suckers who say yes, don't get on that list.
5) Getting off the volunteer list or avoiding it to begin with gives you options.
6) This frees up time for you to invest in your family.
7) Often you get sucked into the volunteer trap so quickly you don't have time to consider options.
8) Money is a major need, it gives you options.
9) Stay home parents always get suckered into volunteering more than their share.
10) Start telling people NO! Your free time is better spent building money for your family.
11) Never before has the need to earn and save been more prominent.
12) At college time your volunteer hours won't get your kids in college or pay for it!
13) Others are looking for an out of volunteering their time, don't be their out!

The main reason you send your kids to school and other groups is to build independent skills. And while it's great to be a presence in your child's education, being there other than for special programs, field trips and the like does not give your child a sense of independence. Being too involved in school can take ownership of your child's accomplishments away from them. Giving them their space and independence empowers your child. Don't allow yourself to let guilt force you into volunteering too much. It does not serve your child well. The focus here is the well being and development of your child.

Be warned there is a group of parents who create an unhealthy competitive game of who does more. Don't fall into this group as it sets a bad example for your children. It's best to be a stranger to this group. Parenting is a full time job for any stay home parent. Use whatever spare time you have to make money for your family. The love and passion you have for your children fuels us all to do anything we can to help. This is why we fall so easily into the volunteer overachiever mode. Don't it does not benefit your family in the long run. Spend that time at home on your computer making extra cash doing one or both of the following.

1) Article Marketing - Writing Articles like this one for directories.
2) Bum Marketing - Writing and Marketing with NO MONEY invested.

I have two children. My oldest will be entering high school in the fall. My youngest has just begun middle school. I have dealt with the issues we have just discussed and know firsthand the impact of it all. I now make a great living online and have the awe and respect of my kids. It feels great! I'm an Article and Bum Marketer.

Not only do I do this, I now have my own website. Come see how it's done! Here is what I've got; a website with clarity. Jump over to stay home parents and see how it's done. http://www.wroteitdown.com Katie enjoys sharing helpful resources. In doing so she has created relationships with certain experts and in recommending their products may receive compensation.

Motherhood Just Should Not Get in the Way of Some Things!

I thought this article was too funny! I had to post because some of you may be guilty of the following behavior:

Sometimes it is difficult to get being a Mom out of your head. The days when you were single and carefree are long gone. You are no longer your priority. You have someone else who takes up all your thoughts and actions all of the time - even when they are not there. This is my guide to things you should never say or do, even though you are now a Mom:

1. When at the dinner table.

Never try to help your friend to eat by making airplane noises and flying a fork of food around his head.

2. When in bed with your beloved.

Never say "Well done! Clever boy!" in a really condescending tone after his performance.

3. When at a restaurant.

Never ask your friend when they excuse themselves to go to the bathroom, if they want a wee wee or a poo.

4. When out shopping.

Never state the color and number of EVERYTHING out loud.

5. When going on a date to the cinema.

Never offer your date a lollipop for "sitting really well" throughout the entire film.

6. When in a job interview.

Never try to wipe a crumb off his moustache with your hanky (which you have licked).

7. When watching TV

Never make the mistake of watching the childrens channel AFTER your child has gone to bed, and not noticing.

8. When trying to be cool while waiting to be served in a Bar

Never start humming the tune to Twinkle Twinkle Little Star. Of course there are many more things you could add to this list.

Jane Rainford. I'm no expert, I'm a mum - hang on maybe that does make me an expert! I run 'From bump to toddler' http://www.onlinemum.com