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The Call to Stay Home with Children: A Radical Message

Hello, and thank you so much for taking the time to stop by this blog. Today's post is thought-provoking and challenges societal norms. We often accept messages about relocating, pursuing new relationships, or taking on higher-paying jobs. But there seems to be resistance when it comes to the idea of being called to stay home and take care of our own children. Why is that?

Some people argue, "You brought those children into the world, so it's your responsibility." They question whether God truly called you to motherhood or if you simply chose it for yourself through unprotected actions. But here's the thing, when you know deep down that you haven't been called to do something, the journey becomes much harder to navigate.

Some individuals were called to stay home with their children, even without a partner. They found a way to make it work because they knew it was their responsibility. I remember a woman I spoke to who had a special needs child. She didn't have a man in her life, but she was called to bring that child into the world. And God made a way for her to stay at home and take care of her responsibility.

I, too, was called to stay home with my children. At first, I resisted the idea because I thought I would go back to work after having the baby, just like I did with my first child. But God intervened and reminded me of my regrets about not being there for my first child. So I had to wrap my head around the fact that I was called to stay home.

But staying home meant cutting down on expenses significantly. We didn't have a house, so we had to find an affordable apartment. We didn't have a car either, so we had to rely on public transportation. It was a drastic change, but I realized that living below our means reduced our responsibilities and stress levels.
In the past, families didn't rely on childcare services like we do today. Grandmothers and great-grandmothers took care of the children while parents worked. But now, we've become so focused on maintaining a certain lifestyle that we forget the true responsibility of raising our own children.

Instead of complaining about the rising costs of childcare, we should be finding ways to live within our means so that we can be there for our children. If we believe that God blessed us with our families, then we should believe that He wants us to be with our children.

I understand that not everyone is called to stay home with their children. Some people have demanding jobs or other responsibilities that prevent them from doing so. But for those who are called, it's important to prioritize our children over luxuries and conveniences.

Sometimes, the responsibility falls on grandparents or other family members. But there is an expiration date on their help. We can't keep relying on them forever. We need to take the initiative to find the necessary resources and support to fulfill our calling.

It's not easy, and there will be challenges along the way. But we must remember that we brought these children into the world, and it's our responsibility to take care of them. We can't keep blaming others or expecting them to do the work for us.

For those who are struggling with the financial burden of raising children, there are nonprofit groups, financial and career counselors who can provide assistance. We need to humble ourselves and seek help when necessary. It's not a sign of weakness but a sign of strength and love for our children.

There are also situations where parents are called to take care of their adult children. Life can throw unexpected challenges at us, and sometimes our children need us more than ever. We must be willing to step up and provide the support they need, even if it means making sacrifices.

In conclusion, the call to stay home with children is a radical message in today's society. It challenges our priorities and forces us to reevaluate our lifestyles. But if we truly believe that God blessed us with our families, then we must answer the call to be there for our children. It may require us to make difficult choices and seek help when needed, but the impact it will have on our children's lives is immeasurable.

Let us embrace the responsibility and privilege of raising our own children, knowing that we are shaping the future generation. May we find the strength, resources, and support to fulfill our calling and provide a loving and nurturing environment for our children. 

Nicholl McGuire is the owner and contributor to this blog. See the podcast about this topic below, be blessed!

Wisdom and Encouragement for Those Over 40 for Moms and Dads

As we age, Moms and Dads, we often face unique challenges and experiences that younger individuals may not fully understand. I recall those days when I simply didn't get what we now call "seniors" and now I am considered "old" by those younger than me. It is important for those of us who are over forty to come together, share our wisdom, and support one another. In this article, I will delve into some of the key themes that resonate with people over 40, drawing from a recent message I shared on my podcast and an article I came across. Through these discussions, we can find encouragement, validation, and a sense of community.

The Midlife Crisis and Embracing Aging

One of the topics that often comes up when discussing life after 40 is the midlife crisis. Many of us have encountered individuals who, despite being established and successful, take an interest in younger people. This phenomenon can be attributed to midlife crisis and andropause in men, and menopause in women. These transitional periods can lead individuals to question their purpose and seek validation from younger generations.

As we navigate these challenges, it is important to remember that aging is a natural part of life. We should not let societal pressures or negative comments about our age affect our self-worth. In fact, the Bible tells us that gray hair is a crown of splendor, a symbol of wisdom and righteousness (Proverbs 16:31). So, the next time someone suggests that we dye our grays or associate our age with stress, we can confidently respond by embracing our natural beauty and the wisdom that comes with it.

Overcoming Ageism and Stereotypes

Unfortunately, ageism is a prevalent issue that many of us face as we grow older. We encounter disrespectful comments and demeaning conversations that undermine our abilities and worth from our own family members to coworkers to mass media. People may question why we are still working or pursuing new goals, assuming that we should be retired or taking a backseat in life.

It is crucial to remember that age does not define our capabilities. We have a wealth of experience, knowledge, and skills that younger individuals may lack. We should not allow others' ignorance or stereotypes to discourage us. Instead, we can use these moments as opportunities to educate and challenge societal norms.

The Importance of Self-Care and Health

As we age, it becomes increasingly important to prioritize self-care and maintain our health. We may experience new aches and pains, but it is essential to listen to our bodies and make necessary adjustments. This could mean taking breaks, adjusting our exercise routines, or making dietary changes.

Additionally, we should be mindful of our mental and emotional well-being. Stress, sugar consumption, and lack of sleep can all impact our overall health. By taking care of ourselves, we can continue to bear fruit in our old age, staying fresh and green (Psalm 92:14).

Navigating Changing Relationships

As we age, our relationships may also evolve. We may find ourselves caring for aging parents or experiencing shifts in our friendships and family dynamics. It is important to approach these changes with grace and understanding.

For those who have children, it is crucial to maintain open lines of communication and foster healthy relationships. We should strive to be patient, kind, and understanding, even when our children may express frustration or anger. By modeling love and respect, we can build stronger connections and avoid potential conflicts in the future.

Embracing Technology and New Experiences

Technology is constantly evolving, and it can be challenging for older individuals to keep up. However, it is important to embrace new experiences and adapt to the changing world. Learning new skills and staying connected with loved ones through technology can enrich our lives and keep us engaged with the world around us.

While it is understandable to have reservations about certain aspects of technology, such as online shopping or digital communication, we should strive to find a balance that works for us. It is okay to prefer traditional methods, such as receiving mailed bills or paying by check, but we should also be open to exploring new possibilities.

The Power of Wisdom and Endurance

In conclusion, as individuals over forty, we possess a wealth of wisdom, experience, and endurance. We have overcome challenges, navigated life's difficulties, and acquired valuable knowledge along the way. It is our responsibility to share this wisdom with younger generations and guide them on their own journeys.

We must also remember to take care of ourselves, both physically and mentally, and embrace the aging process with grace and confidence. By doing so, we can continue to bear fruit in our old age and make a positive impact on those around us.

As we move forward, let us support one another, challenge societal stereotypes, and embrace the opportunities that come with age. Together, we can create a community that celebrates the wisdom and experiences of those over forty and inspire future generations to do the same.

Nicholl McGuire is the manager and contributor of this blog, When Mothers Cry. Check out her books here.

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A Word from Blog Owner and Author of When Mothers Cry Encouraging Expectant Mothers

 Dear Expectant Moms,

I know that being pregnant and preparing to become a mom can be overwhelming. You may be questioning your readiness and feeling like you don’t have the support or resources to get through it. But I am here to reassure you that becoming a mom is an amazing experience, and with the right guidance, you can do it.

Being a mom will bring plenty of joy and great moments that you can’t even begin to imagine. Your bond with your child will be unparalleled, and the feeling of motherhood is incomparable. As a new mom, you have an incredible opportunity to shape this little person’s life by showing them love and guiding them through their development.

Teen moms may be especially worried about not being ready, but you have time to prepare for the task of parenting. You can start by exploring your options and learning more about the resources available to you. For example, many states provide programs specifically designed to meet the needs of pregnant or new moms who are in high school. These resources may include financial assistance, prenatal care, and even support services for parenting.

No matter what age you are, remember that you can be a great parent with the right tools and guidance. Utilize your family and friends for advice and moral support as well as national resources to provide a solid foundation for you on your parenting journey.

You got this!

I am a wife, mother of four sons and have relocated many times in my life. Through each life challenge I have learned perseverance. When you continue to rise above circumstances, you are a better teacher, spouse, parent, employee...so stay strong! For more information about my journey, check out When Mothers Cry available on Amazon. God bless.

Nicholl 

Helping Your Child with a Speech Impediment: A Guide to Recognizing and Managing Speech Disabilities

 As a parent of a child with a speech impediment, I know firsthand the anxiety and uncertainty that comes with discovering that your child may have difficulty communicating effectively. My child had been in speech therapy for 12 years and still lives with stuttering as an adult. My eldest son (who is now in his 20s) wrote a book about his journey called, Speak Confidently Living with Stuttering by Dom Kemp available on Amazon.com Despite his speech challenges, I know that early intervention is key to helping your child overcome speech disabilities. He does not struggle with speaking as much as he did when he was younger. In this blog post, I will share some information and tips on how to recognize speech impediments in your child and when to seek professional help.

Recognizing Speech Impediments:

Speech impediments can manifest in various ways, and some may be more apparent than others. Some common speech impediments include stuttering, lisping, cluttering, and apraxia. As parents, it is important to pay attention to your child's speech development and progress. Delayed speech or difficulty pronouncing words correctly may be early signs of a speech disorder. Also, observe how your child communicates with peers and how they respond to instructions. If you notice any inconsistencies in their speech, it may be time to seek professional advice.

Understanding the Causes:

Speech impediments can arise from various factors, such as hearing loss, neurological disorders, or developmental delays. It is crucial to consider all possible causes of your child's speech disorder, as this can help in selecting the appropriate treatment. A visit to a speech-language pathologist can help in identifying the root cause of your child's speech difficulties and determining the best course of action.

Seeking Professional Help:

Early intervention is key to overcoming speech impediments. Once you have identified potential speech issues with your child, it is essential to seek professional help. Speech-language pathologists are highly trained professionals who can assess and diagnose speech disorders in children. They provide customized therapy programs that are tailored to a child's individual needs. It is important to find a speech therapist who specializes in treating children with speech disorders and who can provide your child with the support they need.

Supporting Your Child at Home:

As a parent, there are numerous ways you can help support your child in their speech therapy program. Encourage and praise them for any progress or improvement they make. Practice the skills they learn in therapy sessions at home and incorporate them into your daily routine. Reading books aloud together can also help improve speech fluency and comprehension. It is crucial to create a safe and positive environment, where your child feels supported and encouraged to communicate freely.

Living with a Speech Impediment:

Living with a speech impediment can be challenging, especially in social situations. But it is important to emphasize to your child that their speech disorder does not define them, and that they should continue to strive for their goals and dreams. Through therapy and support, children living with speech impairments can achieve complete fluency and gain the confidence to communicate effectively.

Having a child with a speech impediment can be a daunting experience for parents, but with early intervention and professional help, children can overcome speech disabilities. As parents, we must pay attention to our child's speech development and progress, seek professional advice if we have any concerns, and support our children in their journey towards fluency. If you are struggling with speech impairment, do not give up hope. Through hard work and perseverance, we can speak confidently and overcome any challenges.

Check out more from When Mothers Cry blogger, Nicholl. she has candidly shared her experiences over the years on this platform parenting her four sons. Here are more posts you might be interested in, here.

Common Mistakes Women Make When They Find Out They Are Pregnant

The moment a woman finds out she is pregnant is one that is full of excitement, joy, and anticipation. It's a moment that most women have been dreaming of for years, and it's finally here. However, it's also a moment that can be overwhelming, nerve-wracking, and even a bit scary. There's a lot to think about, plan for, and consider. Unfortunately, during all that excitement and emotion, pregnant women can often make mistakes that can be detrimental to their health and the health of their growing baby. In this blog post, we'll discuss some of the most common mistakes women make when they find out they are pregnant and how to avoid them.

Waiting too long to start prenatal care

One of the most important things you can do for yourself, and your growing baby is to start prenatal care as soon as possible. Unfortunately, many women make the mistake of waiting too long to schedule their first appointment with an OB/GYN. This can be dangerous because early prenatal care is essential for monitoring your health, detecting any potential complications, and starting a healthy pregnancy.

Not eating enough nutritious foods

Another common mistake that women make when they find out they are pregnant is not eating enough of the right kinds of foods. It's important to remember that during pregnancy, you are not just eating for one but for two. You need to provide your growing baby with the nutrients and vitamins they need to thrive. This means eating a varied diet rich in fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and protein.

Continuing to engage in unhealthy habits

Many women continue to engage in unhealthy habits like smoking, drinking, or drug use even after they find out they are pregnant. It's essential to remember that anything you consume, or inhale goes directly to your growing baby and can have severe consequences. If you have any harmful habits, now is the time to quit for good.

Not getting enough rest

Pregnancy can be exhausting, and it's essential to make sure you are getting enough rest. Unfortunately, many women make the mistake of not prioritizing their sleep and instead push themselves to exhaustion. It's important to remember that your body is working hard to grow a baby, and it needs rest to do so effectively.

Stressing too much

Finally, it's important to remember that stress can have a severe impact on your health and the health of your growing baby. Many women make the mistake of stressing too much about every little detail of their pregnancy, which can lead to anxiety, depression, and other mental health issues. It's essential to find ways to manage your stress, whether that's through meditation, exercise, or talking to a therapist.

Pregnancy is an exciting journey, but it can also be a challenging one. By avoiding these common mistakes, you can help ensure that you have a healthy pregnancy and a healthy baby. Remember to prioritize your health and your growing baby's health by scheduling early prenatal care, eating a healthy diet, quitting any harmful habits, prioritizing rest, and managing your stress. And if you ever have any concerns or questions, don't hesitate to reach out to your doctor. Together, you can navigate this exciting and life-changing journey.

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What are mistakes that you made when you first found out you were pregnant? Feel free to share in the comments below. If you would like to be featured on this blog, please send your request using the contact form on this blog.

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Personal Experience Parenting Children During Spring Break

For many moms, spring break can be a nerve-racking time. As parents, we want to make sure our children are having fun while also making sure that all their needs are met and that they stay safe. For me, past spring breaks and other school breaks (especially winter break) were made even more challenging by the fact that I had four sons from two different relationships -- a tween and teen from my previous relationship plus an infant and toddler with my current husband back in 2007. 

The anxiety and stress of parenting didn't subside completely until one of the little ones started school about five years later. Then my last son began his school journey a year later due to his birthday being in December (school started in September). I wasn’t happy about that and so I enrolled him in a school program that helped young children get an early start. He was there part-time. I found the program through local advertising, but if anyone is interested, check with the school office to see if they have such a program. 

At times, I felt overwhelmed with the responsibility of organizing activities for four boys at once during school breaks, but I managed to press on through the challenges. One way I did this was by setting up structure in my household. I listed times and activities on a calendar posted on the fridge for the older ones and told them in advance what we would be doing. I also blocked off time for what I called "Do Nothing Time." They were expected to do just that. If not, the consequences were that they would not receive treats later and they didn't want me making a phone call to their dad either stating that they were misbehaving.

Do Nothing Time consisted of: napping (we usually had high energy activities prior to), lying down just daydreaming (lol), and sometimes there was the occasional request to read a book. However, there was no technology. This time usually lasted anywhere from 20 minutes to an hour if everyone was sleeping. While that was happening, I would conduct research on the latest local community activities, and read about blended families so that I could better understand any potential issues or difficulties we might encounter regarding the other parent and his family. 

Co-parenting can be tough, but it's important to remember that there are mutual benefits. When my ex-husband and I had conflicts, I would remind him of all the opportunities he was able to have with his free time while I had the boys — like vacationing or doing other things that made him happy. This also saved him money by not having to buy extra items for the kids when they stayed with me, such as clothes, toys, and whatever else they needed. In this way, co-parenting can be mutually beneficial if approached in a mindful manner. 

As spring break progressed, I was reminded of how much I love my children and our being together. We visited parks, went to the movies, danced, painted, went to church, played games, studied subjects that they weren't doing so well in school, and more. Often when everything got a bit too chaotic, I stepped back and watched as all four of my children laughed and played with one another. I'm so thankful for all those spring break memories -- reconnection, relaxation, and all the opportunities to show my children how much I care about them. 

We have another spring break coming up, but my two older sons are now grown men and the two younger ones are teenagers who work. Yes, time did fly since the time I first started this blog! So for those at-home moms who are constantly juggling parenting responsibilities from morning until night, spring break will present you with many opportunities to spend quality time with your children while also enjoying some well-deserved rest and relaxation, so make the most of it! 

As for those moms out there, who are feeling overwhelmed planning activities and handling spring break responsibilities, remember that it's okay to take a step back and enjoy the moments with your children as they grow up before your very eyes. Just think: spring break only comes around once a year! 

 I hope this post has been helpful for fellow at-home mothers looking for tips on how to balance parenting during a school break. Share your stories in the comments below! Until next time...Happy Parenting! 

Nicholl McGuire is the owner of this blog and the author of When Mothers Cry and Tell Me Mother You’re Sorry.

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Poem for the Moms who Stop by this Blog - Thanks!

Everyday is Mother's Day and before long we will be in the month of May wondering what is happening, how did we get here so fast!?  Anyway, I felt like sharing poems I created for all of you who stop by. 

As some of you readers know, my mom and Grandma died years back, I recalled a time when I wrote a poem to them acknowledging their love and caring for us. So here are two I created just for you, enjoy!

Dear Mothers

Moms, your courage is the stuff of legends
Your love ever-enduring and never wavering
Your intuition like a sixth sense you possess
Your strength that never fails to impress

Your wisdom comforts your children in times of need
And through it all God's love they will heed
You've kept them safe from harm's dark door
And shown them what can't be taught in books or lore

Praise you mothers for your wit so true and hearty
Like sweet words of life for those who are weary
Giving hope to guide your family's way so faithfully clear and sound
That they may stand firm when faced with strife on the ground
God bless you dear mothers especially chosen for your children
There will never be another, you are indeed one in a million!

This next poem is for the Grandmothers out there! (Some of you know how much I loved my Grandma)!

Grandmas' Watchful Eyes

Your watchful eyes have seen your grandchildren through
From nursery years till now, so fond and true
And when they stumbled you gave them a hand
To rise again and make your grand-babies stand

Grandmas, your care envelops grandchildren like a warm embrace
A blanket of love that never runs out of place
Your discipline reminds them how valuable lessons can be
You remind those children to take righteous paths they don't like to see.
Thanks for what you've done for them and more
Motherhood is something we'll always cherish and adore.
God bless you Sweet Grandmas now and forevermore!

Have a great day and wonderful weekend!

Nicholl McGuire wrote those poems and is the blog owner and author of When Mothers Cry available on Amazon.

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On Disciplining Your Young Child

Young children can become spoiled and throw temper tantrums, particularly between the ages of 2-6 years old. This post will explore why this happens, the effects it can have on a child's development, and strategies for parents to help their kids learn appropriate behavior. It will also discuss the potential side effects that may occur if parents do not take steps to properly discipline their children. 

 When children are young, they often feel the need to test boundaries to understand what is expected of them. They may act out to get attention or assert their independence. While this type of behavior can be normal and even healthy, it can also be extremely frustrating for parents who are trying to teach their child appropriate behavior. Inappropriate behavior can have a long-term negative effect on a child's development, as it can lead to disrespect and lack of self-control. If not corrected in time, this type of behavior could lead to bigger issues down the road such as aggression and anti-social tendencies.

Fortunately, there are some strategies that parents can use that will help teach their children discipline and self-control. These strategies include setting clear boundaries, using positive reinforcement and reward systems, teaching problem solving skills, and modeling the behavior you want to see in your child.

Finally, it's important to recognize that discipline can be difficult for parents and children alike. It is essential to remain patient when dealing with your child’s misbehavior as this will help ensure that you are able to maintain a strong relationship with them. Additionally, it's important to recognize that punishing children too harshly or inconsistently can have serious consequences on their emotional development.

Parenting young children is no easy feat - but by being understanding yet firm in your discipline practices, you'll set your kids up for success in the long run. By implementing the recommended strategies and maintaining a positive relationship with your child, you can help them learn appropriate behavior and teach them how to make responsible choices throughout their life.

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