Looking on the outside in, I sat and watched two women cry their eyes out about their deceased mother who passed in 2013. The sisters could barely speak as they thanked a man who had helped their mother during her dying days. It seemed unreal watching the three wipe tears away. I felt cold, distant, and couldn't allow myself to become too attached to what I was viewing. Afterward, I thought of my own mother who our family almost lost twice.
The first time due to an aneurysm and the next an unexpected heart attack. I sighed and the fleeting thought came, "One day your mom will go too." However, it doesn't have to be that way. I recalled a conversation I had with my grandmother who saw her daughter in a dream lying in a casket. Far too often sons and daughters leave this world before parents. Some can't handle the pain of a loss ad stay away from others as if they are fearful that death is catchy. Others come around but are selfish seeking only what they can get now or in the future. Then there are those who genuinely care and don't ask for anything, rather they make deposits in our lives.
This is a tough time of year for many who have lost their mothers and other kin. They are sorrowful, angry, bitter, jealous, peaceful, sad, depressed, you name it, but what they aren't is dead. The grieving are still breathing, human beings that have souls whether they feel like they have them or not. So while some will be holiday shopping, planning meals once again, and making travel arrangements, let us remember those who are still with us saddened as a result of death. They might need a hug, a phone call, or someone to simply say, "I love you." But you will never know unless you try. It helps.
Nicholl McGuire also contributes and maintains Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate - the blog here.
You can also check her audios/videos out at YouTube channel: nmenterprise7.
The first time due to an aneurysm and the next an unexpected heart attack. I sighed and the fleeting thought came, "One day your mom will go too." However, it doesn't have to be that way. I recalled a conversation I had with my grandmother who saw her daughter in a dream lying in a casket. Far too often sons and daughters leave this world before parents. Some can't handle the pain of a loss ad stay away from others as if they are fearful that death is catchy. Others come around but are selfish seeking only what they can get now or in the future. Then there are those who genuinely care and don't ask for anything, rather they make deposits in our lives.
This is a tough time of year for many who have lost their mothers and other kin. They are sorrowful, angry, bitter, jealous, peaceful, sad, depressed, you name it, but what they aren't is dead. The grieving are still breathing, human beings that have souls whether they feel like they have them or not. So while some will be holiday shopping, planning meals once again, and making travel arrangements, let us remember those who are still with us saddened as a result of death. They might need a hug, a phone call, or someone to simply say, "I love you." But you will never know unless you try. It helps.
Nicholl McGuire also contributes and maintains Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate - the blog here.
You can also check her audios/videos out at YouTube channel: nmenterprise7.
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