You are a mother. You are a mother who is stressed. You are a mother who is not only stressed, but don't feel so good about the upcoming holiday. Whether your own mother is alive or not, you realize that another celebration of mom and/or you is not what you need right now. Then say so. Maybe you have decided you are not cooking, visiting, party planning, or expecting anything from anyone.
You just want love, Mom, I get it. A hug will do, an "I love you" is sweet, and some time alone is also good. A cheap husband, boyfriend or relative will applaud your simple request, but if one feels it in his or her heart to do something nice so be it--embrace it. Yet, these days love is what you and others most likely appreciate more.
We have lived in a world of much confusion, anger, bitterness, jealousy and more and with each passing day it seems to be getting worse. A stressed mother feels like she is the sun revolving around the world rather than the sun revolving around her. She is trying very hard to make a partner, children, co-workers, relatives, and others happy and bring light to the darkness that maybe in their lives. Yet, Mom is not only tired, but angry because the more she does for others, the more they expect from her even when a holiday approaches.
When Mother decides to retreat, take a break, and distance herself from people, she is viewed as not a nice person and is "God with her." Her anticipated break she takes for herself may be days, weeks, or even years depending on how worn out she is emotionally and/or physically. Sometimes there is no break, she has simply made up in her mind she is so over people, places and things that she remains distant.
A Mother's Day gift is nice for you or someone that you know, but what is most important is love near or from afar. Love conquers all. You don't have to know the mom who needs love and she doesn't have to know you, simply wish her well, say a prayer and put her in God's hands. Think of those around you who are experiencing much pressure from parenting to work and then along comes another holiday that might not be so positive for them (many people no longer have their moms around due to distance or death). And you thought you had it bad?
You attract love when you are willing to receive it, so welcome it and allow peaceful moments to revive you. Avoid the temptation to fill every moment of the day with activity. When you need an extra pair of hands, use them. The benefit to this upcoming season is that there are those who will be willing to help you just because it is Mother's Day. So appreciate them and make those requests.
Nicholl McGuire
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