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Mom Brain Is Real — Here’s How to Manage the Stress, Anxiety, and Emotional Whirlwind of Motherhood


Let’s be real: motherhood is beautiful, yes — but it can also feel like an emotional obstacle course with zero warning signs. One minute you're playing peek-a-boo and laughing until you cry, and the next you're holding back tears in the grocery store parking lot because you forgot to buy milk again.  Sound familiar?

If you're riding that emotional rollercoaster, you're not alone. Moms everywhere are feeling the weight of invisible labor, societal expectations, and the pressure to "do it all" — and it’s taking a toll. Let’s talk about it.

The Emotional Load of Motherhood Is Heavy — And Often Unseen

A 2022 report from the American Psychological Association found that "69% of mothers" reported being stressed out on a daily basis — compared to just 51% of fathers. And it’s not just the logistics of parenting; it's the mental weight of remembering every birthday, permission slip, doctor’s appointment, and emotional meltdown.

Sociologist Dr. Allison Daminger calls this "cognitive labor"  — the planning, anticipating, and organizing that tends to fall on mothers, even in households that share physical tasks more evenly. No wonder we’re exhausted.

When Stress Turns Into Anxiety

It’s normal to feel stress as a mom. But when it starts to creep into your sleep, your ability to enjoy your family, or even your sense of self-worth, it might be something more. According to the CDC, 1 in 5 women experience a perinatal mood and anxiety disorder (PMAD), which can occur during or after pregnancy.

And it doesn’t magically go away when your child turns one. Anxiety can hang around — often fueled by comparison (thanks, Instagram), unrealistic expectations, and the silence around how hard parenting really is.

So How Do We Cope?

Let’s break it down — here are a few realistic ways to manage the emotional rollercoaster, even if you don’t have three hours a day for self-care.

1. Set Boundaries — Guilt-Free
You are allowed to say no. You are allowed to set a bedtime and stick to it. You are allowed to tell your in-laws you’re not hosting Thanksgiving this year.  

Psychologist Dr. Nedra Tawwab, author of Set Boundaries, Find Peace, says boundaries are a form of self-respect and a pathway to mental health. Without them, stress creeps in, resentment builds, and burnout follows.

Try This: Write down three non-negotiable boundaries. Post them where you’ll see them every day. They don’t have to be dramatic — even “I don’t answer emails after 6 p.m.” counts.

2. Name the Feeling, Don’t Shame the Feeling
Ever tried to suppress your anxiety and ended up snapping at your kid over spilled juice? Same.
Clinical psychologist Dr. Susan David says that emotional agility — the ability to acknowledge and process your emotions rather than push them down — is key to resilience.

Try This: At the end of the day, jot down what you're feeling and why. No filter, no grammar check. You’re not writing a novel — you’re giving your emotions a name so they don’t hijack your nervous system.

3. Don’t Underestimate the Power of Connection
Motherhood can feel so isolating — especially if you’re in a stage where conversations are mostly with a toddler or your dog. But loneliness and stress are tightly linked. A Harvard study on well-being found that close relationships are the strongest predictor of long-term happiness.

Try This: Reach out to one mom friend a week. Just to vent, laugh, or drop a funny meme. If you don’t have a support system, consider joining an online mom group (yes, the good ones exist!) or check out organizations like Postpartum Support International for virtual groups.

4. Give Yourself Permission to Rest — Real Rest
Not scrolling rest. Not folding laundry while watching Netflix rest. Real rest. Your nervous system needs it.
A study published in Frontiers in Psychology shows that even 10 minutes of deep breathing or meditation a day can significantly reduce stress hormone levels. You don’t need a yoga retreat in Bali. You just need to stop for a few moments and breathe.

Try This: Try the 4-7-8 breathing method. Inhale for 4 seconds, hold for 7, exhale for 8. Do it 3 times. That’s it. Your body will thank you.

5. Remember: You’re Not “Too Sensitive” — You’re Wired to Care
The same part of your brain that makes you deeply attuned to your child’s needs is also the part that makes you feel everything more intensely. That’s not weakness. That’s biology.

In fact, MRI scans show that a mother’s brain actually changes structurally after childbirth to become more emotionally responsive — and those changes can last for years (Kim et al., 2016, Nature Neuroscience).

So if you cry at diaper commercials or get overwhelmed by loud toys and chaos, you’re not broken — your brain just really loves your kid.

Final Thoughts: You Are Still You

Yes, you’re a mom. But you’re also still you. And that version of you deserves rest, joy, community, and care — not just survival mode.

Stress and anxiety don’t make you a bad mom. They make you a real mom in a demanding world. Let’s stop pretending we have to smile through it all.

Let’s talk about it. Cry about it. Laugh about it. And remind each other: we’re not in this alone.

Resources for Moms Navigating Stress & Anxiety  

When Mothers Cry Team





Tuesday

A Guide to Returnship Programs for Mothers Re-entering the Workforce

Returning to work after a significant break can be both exhilarating and daunting, especially for mothers who have dedicated years to raising their children. The landscape of work has changed, and so have the challenges. However, returnship programs are designed to support individuals like you in making a smooth transition back into the workforce. Here’s how you can navigate this journey, along with relatable examples and resources to help you along the way.

Understanding Returnship Programs

Returnship programs are structured opportunities for individuals who have been out of the workforce to gain the skills and experience needed to re-enter their careers. These programs typically last a few months and offer mentoring, training, and hands-on projects, allowing you to refresh your skills and rebuild your professional network.

Why Consider a Returnship?

1. Skill Refreshment: After years away, you might feel out of touch with industry trends. Returnships often provide training sessions that can help you catch up.

2. Networking Opportunities: Reconnecting with former colleagues or meeting new professionals in your field can be invaluable. Returnships often include networking events and team-building activities.

3. Real-World Experience: These programs offer a safe environment to apply your skills and learn new ones without the long-term commitment of a full-time job initially.

The Confidence Gap

After years of focusing on family, it’s normal to feel hesitant about your professional abilities. You may worry that you’ve lost your edge.

Engage in returnship programs where you can work alongside experienced professionals. This environment can help you regain your confidence and remind you of your capabilities. Many women in similar situations have found that simply participating in a returnship helped them remember their strengths and value in the workplace.

Balancing Work and Family

Juggling work responsibilities with family obligations can feel overwhelming, especially if your children are still young.

Look for returnship programs that offer flexible working hours or remote work options. Some companies understand the need for work-life balance and design their returnship programs accordingly. For instance, a mother who participated in a returnship found that the flexible hours allowed her to manage her children’s schedules while easing back into her career.

Encouragement for Your Journey

It’s important to remember that many women have successfully transitioned back to work after extended breaks. You are not alone on this journey. Embrace the process, and don’t hesitate to seek support from peers or mentors. 

Tip: Start by updating your resume and LinkedIn profile, focusing on transferable skills gained during your time at home, such as multitasking, project management, and communication. 

Resources 

Check out these valuable resources to help you explore returnship programs and strategies for re-entering the workforce:

1. Path Forward: This organization specializes in returnship programs for individuals returning to the workforce after caregiving.

2. iRelaunch: A resource hub for career re-launchers, offering webinars, articles, and a directory of companies with returnship programs.

3. The Mom Project: A platform connecting mothers with companies that embrace flexible work arrangements.

Returning to work after a break is a significant step, and it’s one that many women successfully navigate each year. By considering returnship programs, you can find a supportive pathway back into the workforce. Remember, every small step counts, and your experience is valuable. Embrace this new chapter with confidence and optimism—your skills and insights are needed in today's workplace.

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